Parentification Trauma

Parentification Trauma

I have been writing about different types of traumas and in general to bring peoples’ awareness to the fact that it can be stealthy. I have had many clients come to me initially for a specific reason and say their childhood was “normal and pretty good.” As we continue...
Alcohol and Mindfulness

Alcohol and Mindfulness

The topic of alcohol and mindfulness felt appropriate in the month that many call Dry January. It has become a tradition because it offers your body and mind a chance to reset and reflect after the seasonal bloat and weariness. As a therapist, I encourage everyone to...
Does Self-Help Really Help?

Does Self-Help Really Help?

For years, the self-help space has grown and become more diverse. Entire sections at bookstores, categories online for books and videos, online courses, and more have all become so readily available. There are many reasons why so many people are drawn to self-help....
Practicing the Pause

Practicing the Pause

In our everyday life, many times emotion overrides logical and rational thoughts. We sometimes have regrets after we say or do something driven by emotion and wish we would have done it differently. In addition, nervous energy can seem to take the reins of our...
Hyper-Independence: Men

Hyper-Independence: Men

What does hyper-independence look like in men? I have written about hyper-independence as a general topic and about the impact on generations of women. The extreme autonomy and self-reliance that invokes extreme discomfort when contemplating asking for help. There are...
Hyper-Independence: Generations of Women

Hyper-Independence: Generations of Women

Last month I wrote about the trauma response labeled hyper-independence as a general topic. To review, hyper-independence is when autonomy and self-reliance has been taken to the extreme. These people typically have a fear or extreme discomfort with allowing others to...